He makes plans.
Actual plans. Actual, real, let’s-do-this-thing-at-this-time-and-place plans. I know it looks like you’re playing it cool to just leave things up to chance and see how the night progresses, but taking the initiative and saying, hey, I want to see you, is a surefire way to get the butterflies jumping around in our stomachs.
He’s the same way around his friends as he is around you.
This is a great way to know that you’re getting the genuine person. no fronts, no acts, just them. If he’s puffing and preening around you, his buddies are sure to tell him to knock it off. If he invites you in, however, and welcomes you to hang with them with zero pretenses, not only have you passed a major barrier, but you can also feel good about the fact that you’ve seen exactly who he is, no smoke or mirrors involved. And he doesn’t lie. I mean like if he wants to go out with his friends, being mia just like isn’t the thing to do.
I’ve had so many guy friends justify why men seem to find listening so difficult “Because we want to do something about it!” “We want to fix the problem!” “We want to take action!” But like, bro. Chill. I know just sitting there and listening feels like the ultimate awkward wtf-am-I-supposed-to-do-with-my-hands hug, but just have the awkward-fish-arms-hug. Just nod along. Let us get it out. Say “that sucks” every now and again. Providing us with the solution at every turn just makes us feel like we’re even more in struggle city than we already feel like we are.
Ermm. What about me? Is this what it called asking for more or is this just basic common sense?
Some words are better spoken into the eyes, some feelings better left unsaid.
It’s just not fair :’(
“I didn’t want to be a model because I didn’t also want to be a hooker [laughs]. But I was homeless in New york and like, ‘Alright, either I’m going to get paid to be a piece of meat, or I’m not going to be paid to be a piece of meat.’ Sometimes I feel guilty, like I’m living somebody else’s dream, because I never gave a shit about being a fashion symbol. But…life is good.” - Cole Mohr